All this time I sort of thought that if I were younger, or maybe if I’d never been married, or if I didn’t have my lovely daughter in her last year of high school that maybe I could have a relationship with an Indian man.The white women in their 20s and early 30s who I know don’t seem to have any problem.But I hear time and time again from dear friends who really do LIKE me as a person and care about me something along the lines of “Indian men want to take a foreigner out for a drive but they will drive home an Indian woman to marry.” So that mixed with my first experience dating an Indian man who told me straight-up from the start that we “have no future” because of the pressure from his family and the media due to his profession …well, it was a nice change of pace to be with someone who told me he had no issue with that at all.But it just turns out that I haven’t met the right Indian man for ME yet.Jasbina Ahluwalia asks Sanjit Singh: author of Are You Indian? There is also the case where some Indian guys will date American women, or non-Indians, and over time they realize that they really do want to marry someone from their own background. _____ The above is an excerpt from Jasbina’s interview with Sanjit Singh The entire interview transcript is at: Sanjit Singh Interview – Are You Indian?A woman in India still has no choice as to whom she will date or to whom she will be married and will never make decisions of any kind without the prior approval of the man of the family.If you are a single American (or UK) woman and are seriously entertaining the idea of accepting an invitation from an Indian man, be aware of the fact that you probably wont receive candy or flowers and you will probably not be asked where youd like to go.
Let’s admit it, we all date men that we know we shouldn’t.So what if they are sexy, sweet, popular, fun…oh yeah…now I remember. They’re also a bit bulkier than the typical skinny, midget desis who try to get our numbers. These linguists are fluent in Hindi, Punjabi and Ebonics.Our real focus needs to be on the fact that they get paid to influence hott women to come to some random club half-naked and dance. And if you date one of these promoters, you learn quick-ly that they use their job as an excuse to get out of everything. They’ll have samosas and chai with you while you watch an old Amitabh flick. But with all these benefits, we forget that these guys can be extremely chauvinistic, violent, and in search of a stay-at-home-wife. Don’t let the Indian movie hero role fool you; these desis are NOT boyfriend material. Mama’s boy Likes: whispering on the phone to you from his parent’s last motel room Dislikes: anything without curry Wears: his mother’s shirt selections from K-mart His real job: working at the family’s EXXON station Dream date: sneaking out of his parents’ house to meet a girl who has just made him chapatis in her sari Under no conditions can you marry a mama’s boy.Not many other sites can promise to connect you with 1000s of men and women looking for an Indian partner.Whether you’re looking for love locally or internationally, we are committed to helping you find the perfect match, no matter where in the world they may be.In the end, I don’t know what will happen with us and if we have a future because we live very far away from each other – but two interesting things happened while dating an Indian man for the second time since moving to Bangalore that have really made me stop and think … First, it was great to realise that not all Indian men are afraid to be with a white, divorced women for fear of what their parents will say.