Oh how many times do I get this question in about every scenario you can imagine on this blog here called Should I Text Him or Not?
Thousand of comments from women writing about their dating and relationship issues and they all end with the question, should I text him? Here on my forum we are talking about texting as a dating tool under the thread started by our wise expert adviser, Lagirl, Texting: Friend or Foe.
The book's co-authors, Olivia Baniuszewicz and Debra Goldstein, seek to explain the dating scene based on the premise that men understand text messages while women need to catch up. Boys text, therefore girls must learn how to flirtext! Baniuszewicz and Goldstein offer up a new etiquette for what they call the "A. CNN: How has that experience been, trying to teach your mom how to text? Olivia: It's been challenging at first, being that she came from an over-the-phone, old-school approach. I think guys are really interested to know what girls are thinking.
C." world of dating -- or "after cells." The pair, who described themselves as "best friends" and "best flirtexters," spoke with CNN about their book, and the text message's role in society. She is coming to realize that it's really becoming a cultural phenomenon and it's something that she needs and wants to adapt to. She knows that she needs to pick up that phone if she wants to be flirtexting and going on dates. We've taught girls how to text her way into his heart and now we think guys are really wanting to know how to get into our hearts.
Back in 2010, if you told me Fatima would still be texting me, I might have made a better first impression. Back in 2010, I would’ve never imagined she’d be in my life 5 years later.
We feel so comfortable around each other now, it’s crazy.
I'll show you some Sticky drama all the way Want my [bad word] You gotta pay! Sexting all my mother [bad word] favorite hoes Stereo blast it up!
You've seen what my thumbs can do Time to use my tongue on you Show me what you got on my LCD Let's get down to it So you can get down on me Cybering is so 1999 You've got to be textually active If you wanna be mine ' Cause... Go ape [bad word] and tear it up We can make you look like hobos She's texting if she should swallow Hellz ya!
Talking about the distant future is also good topic starter.
Texting can be used to enhance the attraction or kill it, no doubt. While a text used wisely can create a trigger to good feelings, it can’t be relied on to completely take the place of good feelings that can be created in one on one interactions. Pacing especially in the early dating stages is very important.
Texting should be used as a tool to pace a man for starters. I read on my forum where many women will engage in the beginning in these long day texting marathons. If he texted you and you were busy and did not respond and it’s the next day, yes please text him. If he has shown consitency and it’s his birthday, yes text him happy birthday.
Texting has probably now become the biggest dating tool that we have.
What most women don’t realize is it can be this very tool that can kill the attraction and romance in a budding romance.
The following is an edited version of that conversation.