A manipulative teen in a dating relationship wants to be in control because he doesn't want to risk losing his girlfriend.
Unfortunately, he doesn't realize that trying to control the relationship is a good way to lose it.
Today, Peng Xia at the University of Massachusetts Lowell and a few pals publish the results of their analysis of the behavior of 200,000 people on an online dating site. They say most people behave more or less exactly as social and evolutionary psychology predicts: males tend to look for younger females while females put more emphasis on the socioeconomic status of potential partners. They say that when it comes to choosing partners, both men and women’s actual behavior differs significantly from their stated tastes and preferences which they outline when they first sign up.
In other words, people are not as fussy about partners as they make out.
Illinois women, however, are slightly taller than the national average. (Minnesotans put the fewest.)In an unrelated study, the Pew Research Center today revealed the best and worst states for women to find a potential spouse with a job.
Maryland daters are 48 percent more likely than the national average to have a graduate degree. Seventy-eight percent of never-married women told Pew it's "very important" for their potential spouse to have a steady job.
It also listed the dates of all the messages they sent during an eight week period in 2011, as well as the receiver of the message and whether they responded.
The majority of respondents who received the first message from their partner reported them mentioning something specific from their profile that caught their eye. At least give him until the second or third message to pique your interest before you write him off completely.
As a result, about 20 percent of current romantic relationships turn out to have started online.
and around 40 million of them have signed up with various online dating websites such as and e Harmony.
If you like your dates chatty, you may want to hit up the scene in Montana, where singles send messages that are 47 characters longer than the national average.
In Delaware, women are 72 percent more likely to make the first move than the national average.
(Forty-six percent of men said the same.) With that in mind …"Our analysis found that San Jose, Calif., tops the list among large metro areas, with 114 single employed men for every 100 single women," the study reads.