” Whether over coffee in my kitchen or on the hallowed ground of women’s small groups, I hear these murmurs constantly.“My daughter was interested in this nice Christian boy, but he strung her along for a year and a half.The next one did too.” Or, “Jeremy acted like they were friends but she told me later that they were hooking up on the side.” With that kind of dismal dating culture at play, let’s consider the options: First, there’s “Duggar Dating.” Duggar dating is the modern-day form of arranged marriages.I don’t have first-hand knowledge, but thanks to reality TV, I believe it appears to involve asking the woman’s dad if she is available to date, and possibly not kissing until the actual wedding.Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate.
There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.
Outside the Duggar-verse, there is the less overt but just as prevalent “ideal spouse” dating. Did she want my sweatshirt because she was cold, or because she likes me?
This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?
The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating.
If you answered “yes” to the above questions, then 1 Corinthians 13 says that you truly have a loving relationship.
This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends.